There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, nor is there a perfectly matched couple. As the humorist said, “there is no forever.”
Why do relationships break down? Why do married couples separate? How can we make relationships last forever in our hearts?
Another relationship has ended, another couple has separated, and another family has broken apart. It’s sad to hear such news, especially when it affects someone close to us like a relative or friend. We are often left feeling confused when we hear about a sudden breakup, especially if we thought the couple was a good match.
Reasons and Excuses
There are several reasons for this, and we’re no longer surprised by them. Sometimes the woman is at fault, sometimes the man, and often there is a third party involved. Infidelity is often the result of someone else getting involved.
I have a high school friend who was married for 13 years and has almost teenage children. Yet, the husband found comfort in another woman. Another friend lived with their partner for 7 years and had a child before getting married in church. But after just one or two months of marriage, the relationship ended because of another person.
Many of us have friends and family members with similar issues. We may have hated them, judged them, or even cursed them. I have a close family member whose wife repeatedly caught her husband cheating, yet they stayed together and have several children.
Eventually, they may realize the importance of family. But most couples don’t expect their relationship to end in pain or tragedy. Finding purpose in life with someone else is not the best way to search for it. We cannot blame them for their choices, as they may be afraid to tell their partner they are no longer happy, or they may have found true happiness elsewhere.
There are many odd reasons for separations, but some can be related to attitudes, habits, or vices. Some couples separate because one partner has a terrible habit, like gambling or drug addiction. Surprisingly, some couples separate because of gender issues.
I’m Not Perfect But I Keep Trying
I have been married for almost 16 years and I don’t have a perfect relationship with my wife, but I am trying to make it perfect. Couples will have arguments, which is normal. If there’s a heated argument, never hit your partner. This is one of the reasons why some relationships end tragically. Wives may have a tendency to scold their husbands, but they should also know their limits. If my wife ever scolds me, I try to make her laugh to diffuse the tension.
Wives often have instincts and doubt their partner, even if there’s no reason to. This only shows how much they love their partner and fear losing them. However, this can lead to the husband becoming fed up and acting foolishly.
Respect and understanding should be emphasized to avoid such issues. Loosen some ties for a harmonious relationship. Give and take, but don’t abuse.
I may not be an expert in maintaining a relationship with my wife, but I am trying to grow old with her. A broken glass cannot be fixed, but we can pick up the pieces. Picking up the pieces hurts and adds to the pain, but pain makes us stronger. There is no perfect couple, and finding new partners won’t make it perfect. Rather, it’s about deepening the relationship we already have.
Originally posted on read.cash
By @Bjorn
